Safety has been a huge ongoing theme that’s been coming up for me lately, especially since one of the main things I Struggle with is a debilitating anxiety. I’ve had to peel every layer of why it arises and teach myself how to feel safe in my body, so that I can live my life. If i’m being honest I never realized how vital feeling safe is for our development. Growing up safety was never a topic we actively discussed. I grew up in a time where toxicity was normalized. Therefore I grew up never really knowing the difference. What does it mean to feel safe in our bodies? and how can not having it affect our growth emotionally and spiritually?

Today, when I feel into the word safety. It feels like freedom to me. Freedom to be open. Freedom to create space for my feelings to be felt and moved through me, freedom to know the workings of my mind and allow for my thoughts to flow like a river, not holding on to any one thought as truth, but rather allowing the experience in its totality to be my truth, my flow, my expression. It’s the freedom to breath in the wind and know I am apart of it all. The freedom to know that no matter how much whatever it is I’m moving through hurts, I can breath through it knowing that there will be another smile waiting for me around the bend. It’s the freedom to feel big, to feel deep without needing an explanation. The freedom to accept what is moving through me rather than fighting it. The freedom to honor my thoughts & my opinions. The freedom to be curious about the individual origin of my nature without judgment. The freedom to tap into the language of my spirit, opening up to all of my senses as if I was taking my very first breath. The freedom to experience life primitively. An intimate love like nothing I’ve experienced before. It’s the Freedom to know and see my naked truth and accept it all. The freedom to create a new life that is in alignment with what feels good for me. That’s what safety means for me. It’s the gift to bear witness to the being that I am in my totality, to honor my experience, honor my strength, honor my courage, and honor the whispers of my heart. She speaks an ancient language encoded with the secrets to my existence with the intention to liberate from illusion.

Cultivating safety within ourselves is the first step towards creating a more liberating life experience for ourselves. But how do we do that? where do we begin?

Silence | We begin with silence. When we sit in silence, we can rest our spirit in the stillness that is present within us. It is in this space where the ego settles and truth arises. The simple act of sitting with our own energy has become a foreign concept to us, yet has the most profound effects over our mind, body & spirit. Implementing a daily meditation practice can significantly shift the way you experience the world.

Receptivity | To be receptive means to let go of control. For so long we have had to be strong, keeping our feelings stuffed down just to keep going on in life, but that’s not a way to live. In fact it actually distances us further from really being able to experience our truth. It keeps us from being able to experience this precious life we were gifted to its fullest. I know pain and grief can be uncomfortable feeling to sit with, but these emotions can also be liberating and strengthening. I invite you to let it in, to feel, to put your guard down and create the space for what ever wants to come through to come through without judgement.

While you are sitting in silence, place one hand over your heart and one hand over your belly and affirm to yourself “I Am Safe”, and “It is safe to feel what is in my heart”, “I Am Whole” and “Everything is going to be okay”, “I Am Held”, and “I Am Deeply Loved” because you are! Say it, like you are reparenting yourself, be the energy you needed when you were younger and extend that same love and nurturing spirit so that you are comforted by these words. Breathe into this space knowing that you are held by a Divine Intelligence that is always protecting you. To heal means to return to your wholeness. Meaning you are already whole! We just forget it sometimes in this fast and crazy life.

To practice receptivity is to be willing and accepting of whatever wants to come through our spirit, and acknowledging it.

-Create the space for stillness.

-Be an open channel for your intuition.

-Be a witness, don’t judge

-Remember to enter into this space with reverence.

Self Compassion | I notice there are moments where I have feelings about my feelings. lol It can be easy to fall into judgement about the way I feel. for example: “I shouldn’t feel sad, I’ve done way to much work on myself” haha. That’s mine sometimes. As if “the work” I do exempts me from this human experience. or “I shouldn’t love him, it makes no sense.” As if love should ever make any sense… By accepting my emotions it allows me to experience the totality of its energy. And if we separate the energy from the experience we open ourSelves up for a spiritual ascension. We are then able to channel this energy creatively and transform it in a way that also transforms and moves us. It can then be very empowering to meet ourSelves intimately.

The purpose of accepting what’s there is that it also allows the opportunity to extend ourselves grace. To validate what we’re moving through with love and so many times that’s all we need, so who better to do it then us? To see ourselves, To hear ourselves, and to feel ourselves.

When we don’t have this kind of safety, we turn into the bully towards ourselves. Telling ourselves negative stories around why it’s not safe to be venerable and why we have to walk around protecting ourselves. Or how “it’s pointless to do any kind of inner work, and we validate why we’re fine”. Usually these stories come from our upbringing, and sadly, our lived experience, but if we never have the courage to open our hearts, not even to ourselves… then we will continue to live in the harsh confines of this world. Let the shift begin within you. Be the sun and the water that your spirit needs to bloom.

With so much love,

Bianca Cherie